• Kat Ryan

Why YOU Are The Most Important Person In The World!

Updated: Feb 24, 2021

When was the last time you looked in the mirror and said to yourself “Wow, I really love you, I’m happy with the person you have become and you are the most important person in the world”…??

Let’s face it, most people reading this will probably be searching for the memory of the day either of these things happened. And most will not be able to find it at all. Sadly, that is the life that most of us are living these days; a life of not loving ourselves for who we are, what we do, what we have done and how we improve the lives of those around us.

Valentine’s Day 2019 has just passed, and after reflecting on how I felt on the day and the meaning of it, I can genuinely say I have never felt more happy and content with being a young, single, free-spirited, independent woman! Some of you may be surprised by this but this time last year and a few years before it was a different story. I was pining for a relationship, a connection, a partner – leaving me feeling quite a bit lonely. And this newfound contentment is just one of the bonuses that come along with the self-love package. A package which is available to each and every one of you and doesn’t cost a thing.

Although I aim this post at absolutely every human in the world; it’s the mothers, the fathers, the carers, the workaholics, the humanitarians, the people who are forever putting others before themselves that I truly want this to get through to.


I’m here to tell you: that better world you’re trying to make for those people you love starts with YOU. Yes, YOU are the most important person in the world. Sounds pretty selfish, doesn't it? Well, how about if I told you that it’s the least selfish thing you could possibly believe?

Loving, caring and empowering yourself is something you should incorporate into your life, every single day. It doesn’t take long and it’s only going to have a positive impact on those in your life that you love.

When was the last time you celebrated the positive things about you?

I don’t know if you know this, but you’re pretty frickin’ awesome! And I’m sure this is reflected by the people you have in your life who dote on you and care significantly about you. Whether it is your children who cannot wait to finish school so they can see you again, your partner who comes home from a tough day to a dinner made with love, your family member who calls you as much as they can to see how you are, or your friends, near or far, who reach out to you to tell you they miss you. These are all acts of love and exist because you deserve them.

So, how about you start looking within and taking note of those qualities, values and lovable quirks you have? I’m sure you’ve spent many minutes, hours, months, years criticizing yourself and picking out your faults… Well, it’s time to stop and realize that you have more positive attributes than you do negative ones. But you’re a human and humans, for some reason, look for the negatives first. Another plus side to starting this self-celebration exercise is that naturally, it will support a positive attitude towards others too.

When was the last time you put yourself first?

I know, I know… some of you will be reading this and thinking “I have children and they ALWAYS come first”…” I’m too busy to put myself first, I have priorities”. I’m about to blow your mind: Once you learn to love yourself, you prevent a lot of emotional and physical drainage which results with you having more energy and happiness. This allows you to provide your best self to those that you love – WIN! When others see you happy and full of energy, they vibe off your vibe and a positive vibe equals a positive tribe!

When was the last time you did something YOU wanted to do?

Now, this could be starting the gym or a wellness journey, starting that course you’ve wanted to start, changing careers or simply just wearing that beautiful outfit that’s been sat in your wardrobe for about 18 months. These are all just examples but my point is, what has been holding you back??

It was likely belief in yourself. I promise you this is normal but it can be changed. When you start the self-love journey, it can be a bumpy road to start with, but you will eventually find even ground and start to feel this little bean of energy and light within you. That light will provide you with so much hope and belief to pursue those passions or to go for those things you’ve wanted to do for so long. And do you know what happens when you truly inspire yourself and take action?…. You start to inspire others! Especially those close to you. YOU might just be that bit of inspiration someone else needs in their life. Isn’t that beautiful?

How much time do you spend pinning your happiness on other people?

Unfortunately, a lot of us put our happiness down to the actions, words and expectations of others. For me, I have wasted time believing I should be with someone and being sad or consumed about the fact that I still haven’t found my life partner. And I’ve even felt very deflated, disappointed and down when I haven’t received certain behaviour from friends or family. But I cannot explain to you how uplifting, invigorating and joyful life is now that I am aware that only I can provide myself with true happiness. Pinning expectations on others or ideas of how things should be is only leaving room for disappointment.

I’m not saying that I don’t need anyone else or that I’ll never be in a relationship. What I mean is that I no longer feel the need to hold an expectation of how it “should be”. Putting ME at the top of my priorities has brought nothing but joy, growth, opportunity, contentment, awareness, positive mental health and SO much belief that I can now use this to fuel my dream of helping others to make their life better.

The results speak for themselves…

I have been a better friend, daughter, colleague, employee, housemate and even better stranger on the street! My loved ones often tell me how happy it makes them that I have found this enjoyment from life. And now that I’m not so consumed by negative energy, I am able to provide the BEST version of me to them.

Self-love only leads to a more positive you, and a more positive you leads to a positive outlook on the things in your life and the people in it. Self-love IS possible for you. But it starts with you and only you to make it happen. Those excuses you make, that little voice in your head that tells you "I don’t have time, it’s not going to make a difference, it's not worth it, it’s a load of woo woo"…. They are self-fulfilling prophecies and will only prevent you from moving a step closer to a better life.

Love makes the world a better place. And a little more self-love can make your own world an incredible one to live in.


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